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Are You Pricing Appropriately?

  As a small business entrepreneur I understand only too well what ego can cost in business.  It’s almost as though there is  this club of conversation that talk about business as though it is a social club. For many of the individuals I know in 3D real life, the talk isn’t light, if their business fails their house may go away. If they don’t make money this month their electricity will go off.  Not knowing how to do something is a problem, knowing how to do something but not knowing how to price, market, or have repeat business is destructive to their lives.

What is ego?  It’s the level of self awareness that keeps one from learning. A person who has a large ego has a need to be right, to be in charge, and often they are not teachable.  (my most concerning trait when a new business client comes for help)  You see, if your business or project is not working there is a reason. Learning and correcting the behaviors that are causing it not to work matter.

Recently there has been a virus like rash of over pricing among service providers online. Specifically I’ve worked with two types of service providers who are struggling to achieve the level of income their skills and talents can provide for their business.  As we went through the paces of skills, packages, and hourly fees charged I kept hearing “I’m worth $$-$$$ per hour.” as the testimony of the pricing.  Personally I think the person is worth $$$$$$$$ more than that, but the skill set he is providing isn’t.  If the area you are in is offering a skill set that is professionally trained, works within a timeline the customer sets, produces effective, efficient work delivered on time for $18 an hour, its going to be VERY difficult for you as a solopreneur or virtual assistant to charge $55 to $75 per hour for that same skill set.

Ego often leads to ignorant alignments of outcomes.

One such client recently told me he would not work for less than $80 per hour. His skills were professionally average, his background and experience not exceptional, his personal habits professionally were not terribly polished. He didn’t offer extensive extras or specific niche talents. He also couldn’t pay his mortgage.

The kicker?

He turned down $35 per hour work consistently.  That same week, had he worked $35.00 per 20 hours, the $700.00 he made that week would have paid all of his base bills and the following week he could have paid his mortgage and had money left ofter, by week 4 he’d be able to meet his less than $1700 a month need.

Ego is expensive, in the current state of the union, he was willing to lose his home, his vehicle, and his relationships with family  because he felt by accepting less than $80 an hour he was “not worthwhile.”  Worthwhile in my book has a good more to deal with being a person of integrity than how much you charge for services.  There is nothing in the world wrong with making a living at the rate your skills are paid in your area. If you don’t like the rate skills you own are being re-numerated, learn more advance skills or offer more personally responsible tasks in the offering.

Example:  I often work as a ghost writer.  While my writing might make $.50 to $2.50  per word when I write for a publication as myself, when I write as one of the on-going authorities I ghost write for, my words become theirs permanently, my writing is tested to make sure it is not accidentally plagiarizing phrases, and phrases I create may be considered intellectual property phrases that are trademarked to the author I write with or for. Those differences make my ghost writing worth $4-14 per word or a fee plus percentage of profits from the materials created with those words.  It is my choice to have developed those opportunities when I sought to make more money from writing.

Other ways to up your anty is to offer specialty supports:  work hours when others don’t, be willing to take “on call” situations, be willing to provide for your businesses a service that no one else enjoys doing or remembers to do, protect their businesses by knowing what hurts them. Be willing to go in at a lower price to give a client a truthful taste of what you are capable of doing professionally. Your ability to work with their team matters. Your ability to keep deadlines and communicate goals as you go matter. Your ability to be a person of your word matters.  Your ability to offer flexibility to other small businesses to meet their needs seasonally or to go up and down in offerings as their need for outside assistance is required matters.  During tax season, a CPA may need 24/7 website supervision and support and daily updates, however in August twice a month check ins may be enough. Learn what your clients need or desire from you. Ask the client, “how can I serve you best?”  and listen! Too often I hear the question asked but then the person is so busy talking the client doesn’t get a chance to answer.

If your goal as an entrepreneur is to create client relationships for the serves or products you offer, take time to shelf your ego and do the work of finding out what your skill set is worth in your area, online, and how much it is charged for on places such as O Desk. Find out the advantages and disadvantages of each. Craft your offers and price points to support a price that will not only be able to be supported when clients shop around, but once they experience your truthful taste of your services, you’ll be the entrepreneur of choice!

Finding Enough

The last few weeks I have been traveling all over the United States working with clients.  The role of a hybrid strategist is something akin to Nanny McPhee, The Boss, and Mary Poppins all rolled into one.  I work with individuals who lead successful lives and businesses. My role is to make those lives and businesses work as smoothly as possible whether it is figuring out supportive systems at the house, or strategic systems in branding and business.

The common theme all clients and our own home face is finding enough.

You cannot live where you haven’t found home.  Perhaps success to you is gathering for dinner those you love, having enough money in the bank to choose the food you eat without thought, or a certain number in savings.  Life has a funny way of trying to tell you that where ever you are, it is not there yet, that you are not enough.

I beg to differ.

The source of many individuals’ unhappiness is that they are striving for an unknown end. “Enough.”  Les and I have faced this giant and we have refaced it several times.  You see, for us, enough has a definition now.  It is based in knowing that the only day you can truly count on is the one you are living this moment.  Enough is what is before you in the next few hours before you sleep…without borrowing the issues of tomorrow and next year or decade.  Pragmatically we’re into being good stewards of our resources, but tomorrow is tomorrow, and cannot take over today’s significance in our lives.

Finding enough is very personal.  What comforts and gives my soul peace may not be what you were built to know or do.  God may have instilled within your heart a very different purpose and therefore a very different “enough.”  My enoughs involve a personal peace with my surroundings and relationships, it involves knowing and acting as though people are more important than things.  It means that money is a tool, not proof of importance or significance. It means that at the end of the day I’d prefer people over things.  Finding enough is a journey each heart mst take for itself.  It cannot be defined for you. You must find it on your own.

What are the moments you have found enough?  A few of mine are the moments I hold a child close as they sleep in my arms. Choosing to be fully present at a friend’s time of need, such as when their parent dies and someone is needed to simply clean the kitchen and be present.  To know that a need was met for a family struggling, when pizza was a glorious meal for date night at home so someone else could eat in theirs. It’s knowing that taking the time for kindness is never wasted.

What are your “enoughs?”Have you thought of your world in that way lately?

Enabling vs Empowering

As I work with bright folks in business and in projects that engage their brilliance, I find a continuing theme that must be dealt with as a boundary in life: enabling versus empowering behaviors.  In the classroom, when I was a teacher, the difference was very clear to me.  An enabler allowed an objective to be met without expectation or regard to whether or not the one receiving the met objective needed to be independent in that function to grow. An empowering person assisted the learner in learning, perhaps provided shadowing, support, or at first a hand to follow as a new skill was attempted, but very quickly had the joy of seeing the learner independently do the action required to grow. The objective was for independent success that was self driven.

Which person are you in the lives of others?

Learning is a natural part of who we are.  Some of us tell ourselves that we cannot learn this or that, we become convinced by our own words and experiences that this or that is easier to learn or we’re just not good at something else.  As an educator I am more likely to say “bah humbug” to those statements.  Learning to learn is simply that. We all must figure out how it is that we acquire new knowledge and skills sets best.  Personally if you give me a verbal set of directions, you can pretty much be assured I’ll be coming round the mountain multiple times and I may even think the scenery is new the first five times.  Meanwhile, if I read or write the same directives when given, I’ll most likely only round that mountain two times and I’ll get it on the third. We all have modalities of learning that we learn more easily through, do you know yours?

If you have to tell me the directions every time I need to go somewhere, will it not be a long life if I don’t learn to do it myself independently after a trip or two?  As the saying goes, doing such a thing will not only annoy the bear you’re trying to teach to dance, but the bear may not only be annoyed, you’ll be annoyed with the bear. All of us appreciate assistance, but none of us prefer to have to assist when the person being helped/taught/enabled  has the ability to do for themselves what they seek others to do for them. In the country where I am from, not handling responsibilities of your own is called laziness or disrespectful behavior. Sometimes its manipulative, other times its simply poor habits that folks have taught themselves, that repeat often in their lives under a bigger theme of lessons unlearned like how to live in integrity.

We all prefer to engage people who “get” the learning regardless of the area of life. We all prefer to work with others who value and respect our time, efforts, assets and their own.

Have you considered stopping the sharing, telling, teaching, and training of your friend/client/child and look past where you are with them. What are you consistently doing over and over again with them?  What mountain are they rounding as though lost, or unaware that there is a way out of it? Is it over spending? Is it lack of preparation for an event? Is it anger management? is it personal/professional skills in speaking? When we identify what skill or experience is missing we can more likely empower someone to identify or become aware of the learning needed and take appropriate steps.

In the classroom, an effective instructor pre qualifies where the lesson begins.  How many times are we attempting to empower someone from a positional experience they are simply not ready for? Are you careful to gauge whether or not you are assisting in personal/professional growth or facilitating success in a way that is not repeatable for the person in front of you. The questions I consider in my work with learners when they are seeking assistance are:

  1. What is the objective that is being identified as the goal/success/action to be completed?
  2. Is there a known system of steps to create  that objective?
  3. Does the person/company have in place a breakdown of processes to achieve that goal?
  4. Where in the process is the system slowing/disconnecting/self destructing
  5. What skill sets are required to facilitate the processes of the system
  6. If the processes and system skill sets seem to be in place, have I walked through the entire group with them as though I am the client/customer/sales target or event being experienced?
  7. Is an appropriate level of value being placed on each component of their system/process?
  8. Is the system/objective appropriate to the current concern, objective, or on-going success?
  9. What can be purchased/hired out/facilitated while skills are being acquired, or bartered as new skills needed are identified and obtained?
  10. Is an appropriate amount of time being allowed and is there a check for understanding component to the learning as well as an understanding of how long each skill set should take to be obtained?
  11. Are learning styles/modalities being considered before choosing training/software/purchased education or assistance?
  12. At the end of the newly learned process and practice will the objectives for independent implementation be profitable or is this a task that simply has to be allowed to be done by an area expert, serviceman, or facilitator (is this too expensive for that person to learn to do in times of money, time spent, and value for labor extended)  Will the time invested be appropriate for the role the person performs in their position?

Systems management is important in our lives. Systems management in an entrepreneur’s life is essential for survival.  So often as we begin, our friends, cohorts, and mentors may assist us with their experience and knowledge to know how to begin or to assist with skill they can barter or freely give to us to assist us. It is my experience though, that even when gifting experience or skills, without further educating the receiver of the value of the time/energy/gift received, the effort becomes enabling, not empowering to the receiver

When we enable others we take away their power to own their success.  When we enable others our own ability to engage excellence is hindered by the conflict of alignments of helping versus hindering.  Integrity demands that alignment of purpose, procedure and products in our lives happen. Without the alignment of our actions and objectives, frustration is created, and relationships are strained.

Are you a mentor? parent? friend? coach?  Are you empowering others to be all they can be or are you enabling them to manipulate, depend upon, or continue self taught bad behaviors that are in the long run not only bad for the bear, but for you too?

We are all teachers and we are all learners.  The real question becomes what is it we are teaching and what are we learning ourselves? What are we preventing others from learning? When we choose to engage in others lives are we enabling or empowering them? What are our motives in the interaction? Leaders empower the people they engage. What are you experiencing in your walk with others?

 

 

Seeing Past Looking…

 

  I love that my husband Les is not daunted by a wife who asks for $10.00 while yard sailing (because she always forgets her purse on Saturdays) and then smiles knowingly when I come back with something that most likely won’t fit in our vehicle that moment,  yet expects it to. I love that when I sit for dinner in our home, or lounge with our family that love is made visible throughout my home by the items Les has loved back to life…including me.

It matters.

The gift of shared vision is not one that came naturally to Les. I suspect ten years ago he had never refinished anything in his life. His idea of fixing something involved a purchase and a receipt. His love for my vision to do and have for others awakened in him a joy in making things happen as I have…and what a joy ride its been to see it in our home, as well as in peoples’ lives.

Chairs that are purchased for $2.50 each may not have any value to you. Sometimes the folks you pass by on the daily journey don’t either…they, like my chairs, may be so covered in grime, scars, and dirt that you simply don’t see the beauty they are….the unique creation they exist as.  It’s not always about refinishing either…often its simply about encouraging them to share their story…which unfolds in such a way you are no longer captured by their trappings but by their heart, experience and story.

What are you seeing where you are today? What is the vision you use? Is it purpose driven? Do Driven? Or are you open to allow that which is there show up in your picture in a more meaningful way.  Each moment we exist there is so much lost in our own directed living…perhaps that is the joy I love about Saturday morning yard sailing with Les…its unpredictable…its unordered…you cannot predict what God will drop into your world that day…whether its the heart that needs to be heard as they empty mom or dad’s home…or the struggle of a young couple trying to “do better” for their children and selves as they fight for their familyhood…

What do you allow in your life?

Who do you allow in your heart?

The memories are touchable in my home….as a visual tactile learner that isn’t surprising…but I know things are simply with me until someone else needs them more, then they, like they came, are hauled away often in a too small car to a new home to be loved by someone else’s family….and I walk back to the door with a smile on my heart and know that soon I’ll ask Les if I can borrow his wallet again…

and He smiles…and knows we’re starting all over again…

I love this man named Les and how he’s taught me to love past what I can initially see…

 

Are You Unplugged?

While I was traveling I came upon a moment when I asked Sarah L Cook to come see why my blow dryer wasn’t working.  I am all but non-visual in the mornings, a bilateral eye issue continues to make mornings creative when I travel. If I misplace my glasses I can’t even see well enough to find them.  I had tried turning on my own blowdryer, I had tried the hotel blow dryer first, nothing was turning on.  Sarah graciously agreed to come see what she could see…she had smartly asked…”Did you push the reset on the fuse?” I shared that I wasn’t sure what that looked like, so she came over and this is what she saw…the dryers were not plugged in.  I had failed to do the most important part of using a blow dryer….I had failed to plug either in to the source that runs them.  In my defense, most blow dryers I use in hotels are already hard wired at the hotel brand I frequent. …it hadn’t occurred to me that the dryer was waiting on me.

What are you not plugging in? What resources do you have right in front of you ready to work if you simply plugged in?  When will you take time to return to the basics of what’s not working in your life? Basics matter….our lives do not work as well if we do not seek God’s plan for our lives…even when His plans don’t make sense…ask me how I know…

Part of my “owning my life” stuff is realizing that I am too often trying to run my life without plugging into God first that day.  My intention is to always seek God first, but darn it I regularly find myself taking management liberties with His plan for my life.  Can you relate?  Then when I am weary, frustrated, and knowing something is just not right….I realize that I’ve neglected to plug in for God’s resources into my life….peace, joy, wisdom, direction, and love.  God is God and the short of it is I am not.

Ouch.

What areas of your life are you unplugged? How are you seeking to “own your life”? Are you walking in integrity with yourself?  I wasn’t.  I would say “I’d like to lose weight” and while my friends would suggest that it wasn’t how much I ate, but perhaps what I ate….that maybe, just maybe wheat and other things were part of the problem. Nonsense I said, I’ve eaten it for ages…then a month came up that I was willing to go without wheat for 30 days…31 pounds later and a WHOLE lotta better health. Because I am a Thomas, I did eat wheat again and when I did,  I could immediately sense “danger Will Robinson…I was swelling.”  Who knew? Wheat sensitive?  When we get so used to what it is our experience, we forget that our experience may be in no way shape or form what THE experience that was intended can be….ever tried blow drying your hair without electricity….waving your hands back and forth in no way makes the same effect happen as a plugged in blow dryer.  So is our life…without God it simply isn’t the same…

Are you unplugged?

 

What Happened to the Coffee? pt1

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My very dear friend, Melinda Emerson (@SmallBizLady) called and said I’ve open tweeted you someone I want you to meet, I think you’ll find her to be fun and someone you’ll want to have coffee with, you’re both from Arkansas.  Well, as any true Arkansan would tell you, hoghood is thicker than water.  That would be like saying your long lost sister has been found, of COURSE I would want to be introduced.  We tweeted immediately. Twitter IS the new front porch, faster than even the party line of old! More tweets were shared and a call scheduled.  I’m thinking great Skype chat over cocoa or coffee. Little did I know that call would change my life.

Some things we are simply not prepared for. We do our daily grinds, we work on being the best we know how to be, we take our lumps and try to learn from then. Sometimes in an instant life changes. My family lost my nephew after a congenital heart condition ended his life at school one day.  Life changed.  I married Les and added two children to my life in a way I could have never predicted. A joyful change, but adding a five year old, eight year old, eleven year old and seventeen year old to one new marriage….life changed.  Once upon a time in Fayetteville Arkansas a silly Honda civic did not have a lights on indicator leaving me stranded and asking a perfect stranger to hold my precious tiny babe so I could get help (her car was air conditioned, the outside air was 101. This was before cell phones. There is a 15 year old story now that bears telling, but that’s for another day….

The coffee date was planned for a phone conversation, but I was unprepared to know what was being served would forever change me. That Arkansas girl was author Allyson Lewis, whom I had never heard of. (authors kinda come my way a couple of dozen at a time some weeks…) and she wanted me to read her book that would be launching December 27th.  Alrighty, but I thought we were going to have coffee. (sounded very fun, grown up even, and after all she’s from HOME…Arkansas)  The book came via email that evening, I am an avid reader. By morning I had been through it twice and was now in  operation evaluation mode. I.could.not.put.it.down. You see I’m into learning to learn, and as a strategist with an educator’s background, this book was talking about memory, learning, living your values, priorities and something called the M O R E life.  The woman had it going on, and now it was me who wanted to have coffee with her.  The conversations continued and it seemed that my friend had been completely on target. I would love this woman.  I don’t know about you, but at forty-seven there are very few things I jump head first into and that particularly qualifies where turning strangers into friends occurs.  By 24 hours after reading this book the conversations were more about rapid fire excitement on both sides of the line than leisurely coffee chat.

You see, the book has a workbook that is so very the way I think that within 3 days of beginning its free downloads at The7MinuteLIfe.com , which are predated and ready to use from Member tools even before I had a hard copy of the book, was so closely arranged to the way I think, that I was lost without it by day 5.  The more exciting thing was that my… shall we say…. analytically driven husband Les (@morefromles) evaluated the planner and loved it as well, though he said it lacked the notating the hunting dates and a place to have me mark off laundry. (he would mention that again…it’s an old story, a standard Sweetie truth, I think clean socks come from WalMart or JC Penney, the washer just seems to eat them)

The next 24 days were filled with little sleep, much joy, and a serious oversight of coffee being made at our home. I have become the Excited Evangelist for The 7 Minute Solution because I so know that it will change lives.  In a world that never stops 24/7 , a community that is hungry for a MORE life….that is:

  • MORE passion
  • MORE joy
  • MORE meaning
  • MORE rest
  • MORE laughter
  • MORE responsibility
  • MORE time on things we love
  • MORE organization
  • MORE travel
  • MORE financial adeptness

I knew that the three principles: prioritize, organize, and simplify would in a word work to allow individuals to get back to the business of supporting their lives. I loved the visual simplicity, the online support systems and I knew that this.would.be.powerful in the lives of many. My life took on a new purpose in a heartbeat…to get this book into hands of those who could be use it, and in my opinion, that’s every.single.person.

Caffeine slows me down. An original wild child, everything seems to be backwards in my wiring. Those who know me well know that I can talk 180 mpg when I am truly excited or have “caught the vision” of a strategy that will work for learners and those seeking to help learners learn.   I have endless energy most of the time, a trait I share with two older brothers. We simply run like energizer bunnies. Technology available 24/7 has increased our ability to get to information and to use it but there was definitely MORE needed yet I find great joy in taking time my calligraphy, hand creating dinners, spending time with activities I am passionate about….and yet  permission for me to do that full time would have not been even considered before this book….or the reasons why it mattered explored past “well I just love doing it”  I hadn’t given myself permission to live as a Creative full out “Game On” with the analytical/tactical skills as the backup support in my business…this book project has changed that…and in 24 days the world of Sweetie changed forever.  I gave myself permission to be who I am and it.is.breathtakingly different to bloom this thing called my life..

and Allyson Lewis…you better not simply plan to meet me for coffee, you best plan to sit down and share the whole pot girl, I’ve got about a zillion things to share about how thankful I am for you and this book.  My “why and how” have been identified and now its simply about doing it! See you at the launch! (National Launch, Tuesday the 27th of December and debuting on #SmallBizChat on January 4th!)

#TrueStory

#Les is exhausted (be thankful it is not you! :)

#I.am.thankful

#Just7

Have a Merry Christmas!

Sweetie

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Be prepared to have life as you know it change.

P.S. Allyson and the SevenMinutes, inc Team…..you have been the most welcome surprise of Christmas this year!

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