When it comes to leveling the playing field of life, there is one factor which is essential to each person’s success: Time Management Awareness. I spent years setting goals for the future, making sure that the “future’ was protected but there wasn’t much value in how each day was lived. It was an expensive lesson in how continually reaching goals doesn’t mean winning in life.
Last week I shared some of the questions that I personally asked and continue to ask myself. What would make today better? How do I want to engage my life today? What matters to me? A Southerner, I have long had concepts of the roles I sought to be in life. Family is important to me, not just having one, but liking and loving the one we are. Having time to create, for as a creative when I do not, I am less of a joy to be around. Gatherings matter to me, whether its gathering cohorts in service to others, or in gathering friends around the table. However, “winning” “striving” “completing” were heavy values growing up and too often I created rules for myself that left out the “why’s” of why the values might be of value to my life.
Have you heard the story of the ham? How the daughter carefully cut the ham in half each holiday and put it into two pans? Many years passed and her husband asked why, “because mom did it that way and she made the BEST hams” Only to find out later that Mom did it only because her pan was too small.
Time can be that way. We split our time because our life can become too small if we choose to say “yes” to too many things. Our life becomes small when we repetitively choose to do actions that do not matter with the time we have.
When’s the last time you relaxed and had fun with those you love?
When’s the last time you remember taking a day just for your own needs?
How is your time management affecting the order and calm in your life?
Where are you burning up time doing things you really prefer not to do?
What are the rules about time that you’re lying to yourself about?
This year our family made some mighty changes in the way we identified and then organized our time. We are both pretty traditional thinkers, from a world that worked 8 to 5 daily. Part of the new awareness, after burying count them nine family members in 18 months, is if we don’t choose to live a well-lived life existence TODAY, tomorrow is sometimes not an option.
If the only evaluation of your life was build on THIS 24 hours, how would you fare? What would change about where you spent your time? Who would you wish to spend time with? How would you spend your day? I kept asking that question over and over again in 2015 and it caused a good bit of reconsideration of how each day was spent.
Considering and thinking about it is not changing. Only actions create change. Are you doing the actions that matter in your life where spending your time wisely is concerned?
Time management is a deep subject. It’s so much more than how much can you fit into a day or period in business. Are you ready to really have a moment of “wow”? I know I did when I used a planner to track every.living.moment last year. I committed to writing down for first 5 days, every task, every part of my waking hours. I wanted to see what I thought my life was filled with versus what it actually was filled with. You see we fool ourselves often thinking we are taking care of ourselves, working productively, and believing that we “have to” deal with this or that or that something isn’t really taking very long…or takes forever. (personally I think cleaning the kitchen takes 77 years, but it turns out only about 12 minutes if I sweep the floor too…ouch.) I lived in a world where the kitchen disappointed me daily for years for the lack of dealing with 12 minutes every night? I probably spent more than that feeling ashamed that I was not an organized home keeper daily.
What are your concepts of time costing you? Literally?
One of my friends is a brilliant trainer, she has the gift of teaching, or reaching smart women and sharing in such a way that they are able to begin changing their mindset. That time with others energizes her, brings joy to her heart, yet she only allows it to happen about 4 times a year? Why? Because she feels personally taking care of the chores she sometimes even abhors is more important in her time management than scheduling more events that would PAY for someone to do what she abhors and that they LOVE to do.
Time management has something to do with that scenarios too. How are you spending your time? How are you defining time spent as “necessary” or “required”? We live with the rules between our ears. Often without rhythm or rhyme to “today’s” need or situation. What rules in your head may be creating a time drain in your daily life? What are you tolerating instead of tackling to change what you want to happen to identifying what NEEDS to happen? Isn’t it important to let go of those items in your day that aren’t productive for your life or your living?
Personally, that’s part of the quest I’m on this year, to find “enough” in each day, to create a well-lived life EVERY day. How’s it going? Well I can share with you this…we’ve had more joy, more gatherings, more laughter, and more quiet time by the fire each week so far. It’s hard to let go of striving, of spending time in ways I assumed I was supposed to, but as I gather the courage to ask “is this the well-lived life I wish to spend my 24 hours on?” I find that the answers are changing, and the joy in my heart is too.
How is time management affecting what you choose to spend your well-lived life?